人生如尺，必须有度
<!----><style type="text/css">html{font-size:375%}</style><link href="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/static/publish/css/style.css?v=1605251010486" rel="stylesheet" position="1" data-qf-origin="/static/publish/css/style.css?v=1605251010486"><div class="preview_article "> <!----> <p> 人生如尺，必须有度</p><p> </p><p> 相处是一门学问，关系再好的两个人，若是没了分寸和界限，都会成为一场灾难。</p><p> 人生如尺，必须有度。</p><p>朋友如此，亲人也如此。</p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_FqXSE1peRrUZYS3JgCYfDE7SZ6Dl.1635734148_10_35_49.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="1200" height="727" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_FqXSE1peRrUZYS3JgCYfDE7SZ6Dl.1635734148_10_35_49.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p> </p><p>1、和朋友之间，保持一杯水的距离</p><p> 君子之交淡如水，小人之交甜如蜜。</p><p> 君子之间平淡如水，水永远不会喝腻，糖吃多了，却会粘牙。</p><p> 一杯白开水，看似平平淡淡，却不可或缺。</p><p> 真正的朋友，一定是纯粹的，因为纯粹，才能长久。</p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_FrCPVIEk1PG7yGaWWcAz4TOIbOSj.1635734457_10_40_57.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="640" height="480" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_FrCPVIEk1PG7yGaWWcAz4TOIbOSj.1635734457_10_40_57.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_FifUEOjw5quJOZtB8lZDzOZsmd-2.1635734457_10_40_57.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="900" height="793" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_FifUEOjw5quJOZtB8lZDzOZsmd-2.1635734457_10_40_57.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p> </p><p> 一旦掺杂功利，朋友之谊，就会变味。</p><p> 朋友之间，帮忙是情分，不帮是本分，太亲密的关系总是想当然，认为付出是应该的。</p><p> 失却感恩之心，一味索取，关系也就越来越糟。</p><p>不干涉朋友的生活，不乱说朋友的隐私，说话做事留有余地，再熟悉的人，也要注意分寸。</p><p> 分寸感，是一个人成熟的标志。</p><p> 懂分寸的人，与人交往中让人感觉舒服又不失体面，留白又并不疏远。</p><p>这是一个人的能力，更是一个人最高级的教养。</p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_FtUZ8z-rkUpjfe0i9DEiLHAOFiFQ.1635734238_10_37_19.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="640" height="640" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_FtUZ8z-rkUpjfe0i9DEiLHAOFiFQ.1635734238_10_37_19.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p>2、和亲戚之间，保持一碗汤的距离</p><p> 汤太热，烫伤了自己，汤太凉，就会凉了人心。</p><p> 亲戚之间，有血缘，本来是天地间最亲近的关系。</p><p> 可是成年之后，彼此有了不同的生活，交集越来越少。</p><p> 有了彼此的家庭，有了自己要照顾的家人。关系也就越发疏远了。</p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_FmGEUpEjbfiBpH41aaWc2pdoPSRW.1635734287_10_38_07.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="640" height="360" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_FmGEUpEjbfiBpH41aaWc2pdoPSRW.1635734287_10_38_07.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_FgFi7KPKQTwMDoFn_RR-6EYopNFR.1635734289_10_38_09.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="640" height="1024" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_FgFi7KPKQTwMDoFn_RR-6EYopNFR.1635734289_10_38_09.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p> </p><p> 韩信报答漂母一饭之恩，赠与千金的故事至今让人津津乐道，但是韩信的嫂子却罕有人提起。</p><p> 韩信成年之后，天天在哥哥家吃闲饭。</p><p> 一连几年，嫂子一气之下，有一天没做韩信的饭。</p><p> 韩信脸上挂不住，于是出去谋生，才有了后来的裂土封王。</p><p> 荣归故里的韩信给一饭之恩的漂母千金，但是对供养了他几年的嫂子却不闻不问。</p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_FgFi7KPKQTwMDoFn_RR-6EYopNFR.1635734327_10_38_48.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="640" height="1024" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_FgFi7KPKQTwMDoFn_RR-6EYopNFR.1635734327_10_38_48.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_Fm6vhJWuWjdFxlRJc9qnlsnkPw5k.1635734327_10_38_48.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="641" height="401" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_Fm6vhJWuWjdFxlRJc9qnlsnkPw5k.1635734327_10_38_48.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p> </p><p> 路遥在《平凡的世界》里说过：</p><p>“人与人之间的友爱，并不在于是否是亲戚，小时候常常把亲戚二字看得美好而重要。</p><p> 长大了，开始独立生活才知道亲戚关系常常是庸俗的，互相设法沾光，沾不上光就翻白眼，甚至你生活中最大的困难也常常是亲戚们造成的。”</p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_FqXSE1peRrUZYS3JgCYfDE7SZ6Dl.1635734436_10_40_37.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="1200" height="727" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_FqXSE1peRrUZYS3JgCYfDE7SZ6Dl.1635734436_10_40_37.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable " style="position: relative;" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_FnAt9aS0od72lg_ed25oPtiTirqC.1635734436_10_40_37.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="670" height="447" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_FnAt9aS0od72lg_ed25oPtiTirqC.1635734436_10_40_37.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><div class="qf_img_operate" style="display: flex;" contenteditable="false"><span class="addnote" contenteditable="false">注释</span></div><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_FkockgTnuZcKMT4okHmzpfYmUxhi.1635734358_10_39_18.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="650" height="1155" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_FkockgTnuZcKMT4okHmzpfYmUxhi.1635734358_10_39_18.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_FuoyxQF2K76c1BVvjDuvScOYFRsX.1635734358_10_39_18.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="690" height="935" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_FuoyxQF2K76c1BVvjDuvScOYFRsX.1635734358_10_39_18.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p> </p><p> 斗米恩，石米仇。</p><p> 对亲戚不能太好，太好，就会产生依赖，拖累你自己，而你一旦稍有懈怠，就会造成怨恨。</p><p> 对亲戚也不能太坏，太坏，就凉了人心，坏了亲情。</p><p> 一碗热汤，可以救急，但是却不能救穷。</p><p> 面对亲戚，一味帮忙，不如让他们自强自立。</p><p>每个人的路都要自己走，想要别人帮扶一辈子，基本是奢望。</p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_FtHoLGSrE58jnzRuzR3LsTq4vC0a.1635734513_10_41_53.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="1920" height="1280" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_FtHoLGSrE58jnzRuzR3LsTq4vC0a.1635734513_10_41_53.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_Fji4vaAwI81kDMeTG55Bes2LYivL.1635734513_10_41_53.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="820" height="547" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_Fji4vaAwI81kDMeTG55Bes2LYivL.1635734513_10_41_53.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p> </p><p> 再好的亲戚，也要有原则，有分寸，授人以鱼不如授人以渔。</p><p> 帮助他们自立自强，才能锦上添花，而不是彼此拖累。</p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pic.app.jiuquhe.com/front2_0_252590_Fup02yp9Ct4XB9-0w68Q1zF9md69.1635734410_10_40_11.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" alt="" width="500" height="333" data-qf-origin="front2_0_252590_Fup02yp9Ct4XB9-0w68Q1zF9md69.1635734410_10_40_11.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpYy5hcHAuaml1cXVoZS5jb20vd2F0ZXJfaW1nXzIwMjAxMjA3XzQzOC5qcGc=/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthWest" /></p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img 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